Lame-ass dysfunctional conversations  

hikinghookup 61M
59 posts
7/12/2018 5:14 pm
Lame-ass dysfunctional conversations

Well, as every guy has experienced on here, successful chats are typically about as successful as failure to start chat. The results are always the same: abysmal failures. Consider this lame conversation I just had: Names and places have been changed to protect the innocent, or guilty, or who the fuck knows.

Me: Hi 3:33 PM

Me: Tried several times to chat with you. Not sure if chat is not working or you are just ignoring. 3:34 PM

Me: Guess you are just ignoring me? 3:39 PM

Me: This is why it is so hard to take this site seriously. The women almost never respond. 3:44 PM

Her: Why do you say that? 3:45 PM

Me: I've tried to chat with you for several days with no reponse. 3:45 PM

Her: Sorry. I didn't mean to offend you. I am Karen. 3:49 PM

Me: You didn't offend me. It's just that you never responded. I know the women on here get many more messages than the guys, but it gets very frustrating. 3:50 PM

Her: I am sorry. What's your name? 3:51 PM

Me: I'm Paul. 3:52 PM

Me: I'm in XXXXX. 3:52 PM

Her: Nice to meet you paul. 3:52 PM

Her: I am in XXXXX 3:52 PM

Me: Nice to meet you too, Karen. Yes, I saw you were in XXXX. That's why I tried to chat. I'm looking for a female friend close by. 3:53 PM

Her: Are you married? Picture? 3:54 PM

Me: Yes, married. You? 3:54 PM

Me: I have pic on profile, but not face. 3:55 PM

Her: I cant get to the profile unless I sign up 3:56 PM

Her: Yes married 3:56 PM

Me: I am a standard member like you, but I can still see part of your profile. I just hover my mouse over your blank picture. 3:59 PM

Her: I am on my phone 3:59 PM

Me: Oh, it's harder to see partial profiles on phone. Better to use computer, I think. 4:00 PM

Me: You don't have any picture though, just a blank. 4:00 PM

Her: No I have to be discreet 4:02 PM

Her: I can exchange photos but I want to see you too 4:02 PM

Me: Well, I do too. However, I can host for the right person. Are you interested to meet for coffee or something? 4:03 PM

Her: Of course 4:03 PM

Me: Ok, are you around during the day at all? 4:04 PM

Me: Not sure if there is a delay in chat? 4:08 PM

Her: I am answering all my messages 4:09 PM

Me: Are you getting a lot? 4:10 PM

Her: Yes 4:11 PM

Me: Well, if you want to set up a meet, please let me know when is good for you. 4:13 PM

Her: Ok 4:15 PM

Me: Well, if you are not interested to set up something now, I guess I'm going to go. 4:20 PM

Her: Ok 4:21 PM

By the way: This is the portion of text from her profile that I can see as a standard member. It sure sounds like she is serious, right?

"I want to have clean, mutually satisfying fun. Oral sex is my favorite. I have been told I have an amazing tongue. Let's..."

So what is the consensus here folks?
She's not interested. Move on
She's always going to be bombarded with too many messages. You are doomed to failure. Move on.
Try again. Maybe next time will be different.
She's a hired fluffer and of course has no intention of meeting.


hikinghookup 61M
75 posts
7/12/2018 5:17 pm

I'm interested in your opinions and experiences on this folks. Thanks in advance for responses.


DonnaChang 48F  
118 posts
7/12/2018 5:28 pm

She's not interested. There would have been more of a conversation from her end. I'm just surmising from what she said or didn't say in chat.


hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 5:33 pm:
Yeah, the "OKs" with no follow-up kinda said to me "not interested." Thanks for your reply.

de9ux2 55M  
4 posts
7/12/2018 5:29 pm

HI Paul, you are getting the 'Rubber-Ear' traetment, or she is playing the Playstation - Move on and good luck. Short answers are doomed for failure. Cheers Donald


hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 5:34 pm:
Hmmm "rubber ear treatment." Catchy and appropriate. Thanks!

hikinghookup 61M
75 posts
7/12/2018 5:29 pm

Thanks for your votes so far people. I welcome your comments, experiences and frustrations as well.


benard69 63M/63F  
3226 posts
7/12/2018 5:46 pm

You are totally wasting your time...


hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 5:50 pm:
God! Totally? You mean like ive up on this site? That actually seems most reasonable. Thanks!

hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 5:51 pm:
By the way....nice!

hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 6:04 pm:
That should have been "give up" and not "ive up" Sheesh!

pocogato12 66F  
20106 posts
7/12/2018 5:47 pm

She's way too busy answering other messages so that makes her rude. Move on-she'd likely stand you up

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hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 5:52 pm:
Well, it felt rude, but then again, I'm just a guy, and it seems like guys are roadkill on this site!

pocogato12 66F  
20106 posts
7/12/2018 5:49 pm

PS. I am rarely on IM but I can see on the task bar when an IM lights up so I go to the IM and hunt for them and NOPE they have zero patience. Dont folks realize we do not live to answer their calls- we have other things going on

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hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 6:07 pm:
Well, ok, but if you really don't want to see chat in the notification, can't you change a setting?

redrockrascal 59M
17686 posts
7/12/2018 6:09 pm

Your opening was "Hi" - so you stood out like the other thousand guys trying to contact her.

You said nothing that addressed her profile - so you stood out like the other thousand guys trying to contact her.

When she mentioned being discreet you had an opening to discuss what she wants to do. You fumbled the ball into the hands of the other guys she may, or may not, have been talking to.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 6:29 pm:
Well.....ok. You are right there, but honestly, I have often picked things from women's profiles for icebreakers. I don't actually think I've had any better success doing that, but if it's working for you I think that's awesome!

japaneseass 50F  
45366 posts
7/12/2018 6:29 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Your opening was "Hi" - so you stood out like the other thousand guys trying to contact her.

    You said nothing that addressed her profile - so you stood out like the other thousand guys trying to contact her.

    When she mentioned being discreet you had an opening to discuss what she wants to do. You fumbled the ball into the hands of the other guys she may, or may not, have been talking to.
that was exactly my thought...


redrockrascal 59M
17686 posts
7/12/2018 7:23 pm

Hi JA, ya know, while he is trying to pick up his ball you and I could get together and watch his antics.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 10:17 pm:
Is that where you get your thrill red? Ok, whatever dude. You made some points. They sound kind of idealistic, though. I think more realistically that this site is really a crapshoot, and more "crap" than "shoot."

Heathen_G 59M
4766 posts
7/12/2018 9:02 pm

You are too wishywashy.... you waste too much time whining about how slow this is.....you should have closed this deal within 10 minutes......And you say "Asked" her if she wants to meet?? . DON'T do that.

You find a woman, married or not, doesn't matter..... you get to your objective; you tell her a time and place to meet ............simple as that...

No more , "I'm looking for female friend"..... that's not a turn on!! Are you trying to tell women you're a homo?

You're objective is to meet her, to see if you can get to fucking..... not buy her stuff to drink and eat!!


hikinghookup replies on 7/12/2018 10:18 pm:
Ok heathen, will give it a try. Thanks!

Yoursideguy76 41M
36 posts
7/14/2018 9:44 pm

I think it’s a bot.
There’s lots of those on Free Sex Chat Adult Dating Personals now.
You can have full conversations with them where they answer 1 to 3 words but they need time to calculate the more difficult stuff.
You can toy with them. Have fun with it.
I have never met a woman on that ended up even going out once. Not even when I was a paying member.
But killing time wasting the hookers’ time and playing with the bots is almost as fun as looking at these surveys on a boring night in.


CurvyLadyTN 50F  
11 posts
7/15/2018 2:00 pm

You're probably wasting your time. But I will say this... I use my phone, but I don't always see IMs. Also, I've stopped using it altogether because it doesn't work 90% of that time. I've had to respond 2 to 3 times before my response would go thru. And then most of the time, it would say delivered but it would never say read... which means it never went thru. Plus, I get tired of people getting pissy with me because they think that I'm ignoring them when it's the IM that isn't working. Anyway, good luck.


hikinghookup replies on 7/15/2018 10:31 pm:
Thanks for your response. It's interesting that you have to respond multiple times for a message to get through. I guess I thought that would be more a problem for guys, with too many guys hitting on too few women and the women not being able to keep up. I have virtually no doubt that there are very few women hitting on guys on here, so that points to a real problem with the chat system and not necessarily to the ratio of guys to women, although I'm sure that is a huge factor working against guys as well.

Having read what I can of your profile as a standard member, I have to say it's too bad you live so far away or I'd love to help you out with your fantasies!

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